Lady Gaga’s Emotional Speech on Surviving Sexual Assault and Mental Health | ELLE


♪ From the shallow now ♪ (audience laughs) – I don’t know if I’m
working it right now. It’s hard to know what to say. I wrote this speech and there’s teleprompters
and I got papers. I don’t know what to– (audience laughs) Use. And in truth, I was just trying
to memorize Anita’s speech because it was so beautiful, but… You give me hope! Thank you, Jennifer, for
that beautiful introduction. You’re an inspiration to so many. Thank you not only for everything you continually do for women, but for the force of nature you’ve been for so many all over the world. I think about me and my best friend who’s here tonight, right there. (audience applauds) I’ve known her since I was four years old. Beautiful adopted woman from Korea. And how throughout high school, we danced and we sang, imitating Jennifer. (audience laughs) Imitating you while we
strengthened our bond. Her name is Bo. And wearing white bandanas and hoop earrings draped
over caramel colored hair. You brought us so much joy. Where are you? You brought us so much joy. On the train, I thought about you. (audience laughs) And how the fuck I was
gonna get off that train. (audience laughs) She loved you so much we even
gave her the nickname, J-Bo. (audience laughs) No for real. Like, we called her that all the time. There is not a doubt in my mind that you will be loved forever as the powerhouse of a performer
and woman that you are. Thank you for making so many
memories for me and my friends that I will cherish forever in my heart. Thank you so much. (audience applauds) I never in my wildest dreams thought that my life
would become what it has. But more so, to be honored this evening purely for being a woman. It’s beyond what I could have imagined. I guess I didn’t see it
happening in my lifetime. I am immensely privileged to be in the company of
so many powerful women who have changed so many people’s lives. I am so humbled to be
standing hand-in-hand with every one of you today. I spent a lot of time thinking about what I
wanted to say tonight because of all of you,
because you inspire me. How does one rise to such an occasion, when maybe you don’t feel that inside? How does one accept where
life has brought them, and what it all means? As I tried on dress after dress today, getting ready for this event, one tight corset after another, one heel after another,
a diamond, a feather, thousands of beaded fabrics, and the most beautiful silks in the world, to be honest, I felt sick to my stomach and I asked myself, what does it really mean
to be a woman in Hollywood? We are not just objects
to entertain the world. We are not simply images to bring smiles or
grimaces to people’s faces. We are not members of
a giant beauty pageant meant to be pit against one another for the pleasures of the public. We women in Hollywood, we are voices. We have deep thoughts and ideas and beliefs and
values about the world and we have the power
to speak and be heard and fight back when we are silenced. So, after trying on 10 or so dresses, with a sad feeling in my heart that all that would matter was what I wore to this red carpet, I saw an oversized Marc Jacobs suit buried quietly in the corner. (audience laughs) I put it on to a resounding view of eyes glaring at me in confusion. (audience laughs) “But the Rodarte was so
beautiful,” one said. “But the Raf Simons for Calvin Klein “was so stunning on you,” said another. “But what about the Brandon Maxwell?” “What about the Dior?” Lots of questions. (audience laughs) They were all dresses. This was an oversized men’s
suit made for a woman. Not a gown. And then I began to cry. In this suit, I felt like me today. In this suit, I felt the truth of who
I am well up in my gut. And then wondering what
I wanted to say tonight became very clear to me. As a sexual assault survivor by someone in the entertainment industry, as a woman who is still not
brave enough to say his name, as a woman who lives with chronic pain, as a woman who was conditioned
at a very young age to listen to what men told me to do, I decided today, I wanted
to take the power back. Today, I wear the pants. (audience applauds) Today, I wear the suit. In an age when I can
barely watch the news, I gasped at the unjust men
and some women, quite frankly, that I see running this country. I had a revelation that
I had to be empowered to be myself today more than ever, to resist the standards of
Hollywood, whatever that means, to resist the standards
of dressing to impress, but to use what really matters, my voice. After I was assaulted when I was 19, I changed forever. Part of me shut down for many years. I didn’t tell anyone. I avoided it myself. And felt shame even still today. Standing in front of you, I feel shame for what happened to me. I still have days where I
feel like it was my fault. After I shared what happened to me with very powerful men in this industry, nobody helped me. No one offered me guidance, or a helping hand, to lead me to a place
where I felt justice. They didn’t even point me in the direction of the mental health assistance
I was in dire need of. Those men hid because they were afraid of losing their power. And because they hid, I began to hide. I hid for a long time until I started to feel physical pain. Then I had to go to the doctor ’cause I didn’t know
what was wrong with me. And then I was diagnosed with PTSD and fibromyalgia, which many people don’t
think is even real, and I don’t even know what
the fuck to say about that. But I’ll tell you what it is. It’s a syndrome that is
essentially a cyclone of many different conditions
depending on the person, inducing a stress-induced pain. And I really wish my friend
Lena Dunham was here tonight because I think she
could probably articulate this much better than me. And I hope we can all agree
that she’s a remarkable woman. (audience applauds) Depression, anxiety, eating disorders, trauma, these are just a few
examples of the forces that can lead to this tornado of pain. So what I would like to say, in this room of powerful
women and men today, is let’s work together to beckon the world towards kindness. I’m fortunate enough now to
have the resources to help me, but for many, the resources
either don’t exist, or people don’t have the ability
to pay for or access them. I want to see mental health become a global priority. (audience applauds) We might not be able, or
we’re not able, actually, to control all of the
challenges and the tragedies that life throws our way, but we can work together. This room and even wider can work together to heal each other. And we can also try to find the strength, in the best way that we can,
to ask for help if we need it. One in four people in the world
suffer from mental illness. 300 million people suffer from depression, 60 million people live with
bipolar affective disorder, 23 million people are
stricken with schizophrenia, and 800,000 people die
every year from suicide. In low and middle income countries, between 76 and 85% of
people with mental disorders receive no treatment at all. In high-income countries, between 35 and 50% of people
are in the same situation. The people in this room, and the people that you
have in your network, have the power to turn kindness into plutonium and change the world for both children and adults, to provide for a better future and make up in whatever
small way that we can, microscopic maybe, for the pain those have
suffered in the past. And if anyone is compelled to do so, please join me and my mother Cynthia. We’re the founders of the
Born This Way Foundation to empower youth, to inspire
a kinder and braver world. We want kids to learn about mental health and the importance of
kindness at a very young age. And it is my personal dream that there would be a mental
health expert, teacher, or therapist in every
school in this nation, and hopefully, one day, around the world. Let’s lift our voices. I know we are, but let’s get louder. And not just as women, but as humans, and see that there are there
are great men in the world. And ask them to hold
our hands for justice, that our voices be heard
whatever our story may be, for an equal standing that
we will fight for justice for women and men and those
with other sexual identities, for me. This is what it means to
be a woman in Hollywood. It means I have a platform. I have a chance to make a change. I pray we listen and believe and pay closer attention
to those around us, to those in need. I’m sorry, I preach a lot, so you’re gonna have to bear with me. Be a helping hand. Be a force for change. Thank you, Nina Garcia. Thank you, Steven Gan. I was an outcast and you believed in me, and I wouldn’t be here without you. Thank you, Elle. Thank you all the loved ones in my life. Bobby, I love you. Everybody at table five. (audience laughs) My fiance Christian. All the loved ones in my life who’d take care of me every day. And Ryan Murphy, thanks for giving me
my first leading role. (audience applauds) You know that Golden
Globe belongs to you, man. Thank you to all of you, everybody in this room
who has supported me in having a voice, and knowing I have
something inside me to give that’s more important than any
stereotype about Hollywood. I have my heart to give to you, and I want you to have all of it. Thank you for inspiring me. I can’t say enough about you. Listening to you speak
tonight gave me hope when I have trouble
sleeping ’cause I’m afraid, or when I walk out in the
world and I’m trembling inside. It’s women like you, Anita,
that make me feel strong. Come on. (audience applauds) Be kind to yourselves and
be kind to each other. And to the designers that sent me all those beautiful dresses, thank you too. (audience laughs) (audience applauds) It taught me something that I
needed to learn again today. And to quote myself– (audience laughs) If there’s one thing you take away from me being here tonight, Elle, it’s breed compassion, amen fashion. (audience applauds) Thank you.

100 thoughts on “Lady Gaga’s Emotional Speech on Surviving Sexual Assault and Mental Health | ELLE

  1. Earlier this week, we celebrated ELLE's 25th annual Women In Hollywood event, and gave credit to 11 women — including Lady Gaga — who push the conversation forward in 2018. Let us know your favorite moment from Gaga's speech, and read more about #ELLEWIH on ELLE.com: https://www.elle.com/elle-women-in-hollywood-2018/

  2. Most times it's really hard for victims to open up about their experience with sexaul assault cause they sometimes deal with truma, guilt, depression ect. I'm so proud of her for making this beautiful speech🙏.

  3. fake gag me you eat poop satanic pig go get raped and eat a baby you've raped and tortured.by the way this fucking freak has a penis for sure we saw it

  4. eat some more poop satanic filth no Christian bought this pathetic pitiful attempt for sympathy you trash

  5. Shes trying to look like Kim K here with the same hair and very bad lip fillers. Then the bad acting with fake experiences and trashy ideas again. Shes just a bad actor and aaaalways making up lies for attention, I feel seriously sorry for this person. Full-blown narcissistic personality disorder. It must be a torture to be her with the constant need for attention, ready to lie and steal for it.

  6. It’s nice to hear the emotional and spiritual side of lady Gaga. They need to become aware of the healers who are bringing new sciences to rewiring ptsd and traumas and who have been ridiculed for it up until recently. I hope my book victim to victory , healing generational abuse from my bloodline, gets to her door. No publisher would look at it because I wasn’t a name. But I’ve dedicated my life to healing severe trauma and have the knowledge and wisdom to build a new mental health care system. I was sad to hear this famous woman was not able to release the chains of who violated her. I feel for her but having worked in the field that holds her soul from feeling and being free. Many blessings to her and everyone taking a stand on this subject matter. It’s in my opinion an epidemic.

  7. wake the fuck up America this gag me is a satanic poop eating pedophile the entire music industry is open your eyes

  8. I wonder if she's tried trigger point therapy to release the tention? I had a patient once that d.t.m. seemed to help. Magnesium is also relaxing. Not giving medical advice thoigh. Wouldn't want black Kevlar HEROES kicking my door in yelling FREEZE! and gunning me and my sleeping dog down with military grade weapons for the crime of trying to help others. How brave it must make them feel..

  9. Strong,independent,but fragile,& once broken…..now speaking from the heart & her great intellect,FIGTING FOR US WOMEN! Lady Gaga is,just that A TRULY BEAUTIFUL LADY SOUL. Doing this is TOUGH, I know……I've walked in her shoes. Sadly,though,I'm not a Hollywood actress,but every word she speaks is the truth.
    As I listen to her,my eyes are full of tears,as I hurt in the spot she did.
    It's absolutely lethal,I've PTSD too.I see in her,what others have seen in me….it's incredibly both moving/ depressing
    The ppl that laughed were extremely disrespectful of Lady Gaga!
    This was a important speech! If you don't dig it,get the fuck out!!!
    Thank you MY GODESS FROM A FELLOW SUFFER
    You spoke the words I was threatened severely to ever utter.
    ✌🏻⭐️⭐️⭐️❤️❤️❤️🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹😇😇😇😇😇😇🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼I pray to Buddha )

  10. I have be throw sexual abuse through must of my life since I was 8. I laugh cause I get nervous!! It's not at the person in any way!! And I'm in my 40tys I am glad that women in today's world talk about this and help each other though this!!😚 Thank U

  11. EVERYONE NEEDS TO CONNECT BACK TO THE BASICS AND NATURE. Give all your pain and suffering back to the earth. Eat Organic Whole foods full of vibrant colors, electricity, water, vitamins and minerals. ORGANIC FRUITS AND VEGGIES! HERBS TOO! Crystals are wonderful as well….Amethyst, LEPIDOLITE, CHRYSOCOLLA, ROSE QUARTZ….and the SUN, Ocean, Forests, Rivers, Lakes! spend time with animals, smell the flowers. Let go of the past and go within and connect to your true spirit. Give yourself as much time and space to heal as you need. Remove unhealthy people, remove unhealthy foods, remove unhealthy substances, remove the darkness, YOU HAVE PERMISSION TO REMOVE WHAT DOES NOT SERVE YOUR BEST SELF AND HIGHER GOOD! YOU STILL HAVE YOURSELF AND YOU ARE PURE LIGHT ABOVE ALL ELSE!!! You have angels and guides always with you and they will assist you if you let the light of love in. You are beautiful 🙂

  12. This morning I heard a woman on a TV show say that 8 year olds dont need to be taught mindfulness or about mental health…

    I wish I had been taught that stuff when I was eight I really really wish i had. Thankyou to lady gaga, mental health is more common than people who are inexperienced with it think and this speech is so inspiring and really shows that. Xxx

  13. Actually entert industry around d world have dark side.they force celebrity to be someone else than their true personality.all celebrity need to be someone else just to follow public desire

  14. There were so many moments where it was appropriate for them to clap and support her and they didn't. Hollywood is a cold place.

  15. She used an earpiece to say her speech that’s why she pauses and stops for a couple seconds, good speech but there’s no way she free speached all of that

  16. If mental health was taken more seriously and taught to people from a young age alot of crimes and suicides would be prevented.

  17. gaga in philippine dialect means foolish woman, but sometimes its an expression like hey gaga means hey foolish woman or they call you gaga if you are naughty, overjoy, or doing foolish things, they call it to their friends,etc,,,,there are many filipinos in u,s, its possible that lady gaga has filipino friend or her friends have a filipino friend, because that gaga thing is very common expression by filipinos

  18. Wish I could meet her in person one day! You're so strong and you're my inspiration; you're the voice for so so many of us and i couldn't be more grateful to be represented by you as a woman! I love you

  19. Kindness? Is that what women need to be? Isn't that what we have been conditioned to be since birth? We are kind. Being only or primarily that is the problem. Our indiscriminate kindness and fear of offending is what makes predators, bullies and mean people take and dominate us for their own pleasure in this way. That is when we need to know how to be unkind, because when someone is threatening our very being we need to know how to be unkind and strong. Are we so careless with our most precious possession, our children that we cannot communicate that which is most important for them to know?From a young age we need to understand that we will meet dangerous people who will hurt us. Mothers and fathers, teach your children self respect, caution, their value and their vital need for boundaries against those who are out to take their sexuality. Not to frighten them but to prepare them for reality. At the same time, everyone is not like that. but that they need to be able to protect themselves from those who are and to discern those who are and are not dangerous. It is because we were not properly warned that they were damaged and hurt in their life in this way. For that is the way of the world that we need to know. Is that so hard?

  20. Gaga can wear a potato sack and still be amazing.. she is amazing.. that's who she is.. she has strength and such integrity to show herself to the world!

  21. I'm so with her about he fibromyalgia because I have something called Complex Regional Pain Syndrome which is the highest ranking pain condition in medical history. It's known as he suicide disease because people don't take it seriously so there's no studies. The doctors who treat you for it don't even believe you. It makes me fucking sick to my stomach.

  22. This video inspired and educated me more that 9 years at school. Lady Gaga you are a HUGE inspiration and this world is so lucky to have you ❤️❤️💕💗

  23. I know everyone is wondering why people were laughing in the beginning. I think it's because she still felt the need to bring up designer after designer. How even though this isn't about fashion she made it about fashion. She brought that up many times.

  24. Beautifully said my love.!!! You gave me strength to stand up today in court in battling the same indifferences. I myself have battled a long battle of sexual assault and mental health issues. And today is the day that i will no longer be the victim throughout this tragedy and become a spokesperson just like yourself. I love you.!!! And as yours is mine, my heart is also yours. Xoxo

  25. Thank You Lady for being BRAVE!!!! ~♥*RE

    Sage Leyendas
    said: "Why the f*** are people laughing? She is being serious and pouring out
    her heart in sadness".
    My Response: Starduster*RE In Motion

    I felt the same way Sage!! She was not laughing and this subject is REAL. It made me sick and Sad,

    when someone talks about this subject and can relate and then others LAUGH?!!! It's NOT FUNNY!!!!

    This Subject, for (WOMEN) isn't funny… `when you're praying for your Life… because you have someone who

    needs you at home'. …….Lady has grown a LOT since she began. I'm Proud of this about her. Love to you Stephanie, from

    all of us Lady's who have been there and survived.
    Sage, I'm grateful that you brought up the Subject…

    POWER to Survivors!!!!!~♥*RE

  26. That's how the devil works, Gaga…only JESUS can set you free..only JESUS can heal your pain, your body, your mind…you don't have to live with it. .You are created in God's image. ..and you have more power over the evil one, and he KNOWS it..JESUS is the Way, the Truth and the Life…and the Truth shall set you free….just ask Him…and you have Him. ..He loves you more than anyone, any thing…just believe. ..and God bless you. JESUS is my mental health, my healed body…I have no money. .but I have all the help I need..in Jesus…..

  27. I wish all men so-called who have sexually harmed others, would come forward into the eyes of the public, confess, and assist their victims with agape love, to become real Christ-centered men.
    I keep hoping that a star like the Lady Gaga will pick up her cross for Jesus Christ, something more righteous than the average Joe and Jane. Praying for her spiritual scars to become a sign to His word and name. Equally amazing is how rape on film (pornography), even glorifies hell-on-earth victims like her, victims of incest, victims of gang rape, victims of bondage, and other immorality is freely produced and posted on the internet can appear before anyone even those not looking for it! Sadly, I believe all ungodly acts are linked to the manure of the belief in evolution taught as fact or other non-Biblical beliefs. Something if said publicly, can get a person EXPELLED, like the movie by Ben Stein. Myself, to the best of my ability, I believe in Exodus 20:11, 31, and rest of the Bible.

  28. WOW what women!
    Don't give up, little warrior girl!
    Strange, a few months ago, your work was on my ignore list. Who knows? … today, of course, is this beautiful voice and your position in favor of the right of women to be wherever they want!
    Go! Go girl! We want more!
    Tell me somethin ', girl
    Are you happy in this modern world?
    Or do you need more?
    Is there somethin 'else you're searchin' for?

  29. Some good comments, unfortunately she has given in to the hollyweird hype and has dressed in outfits that are revealing, disgusting, immodest and ugly. How does that make her a strong woman? By kowtowing to the hollyweird perversions? Strong, confident women do not need to expose their bodies or use foul language to get a message across. That is not the way to instill good examples of womanhood to young girls. Being chaste, modest, clean and well-spoken is far more attractive and appealing. Remember Stefani, you are a precious daughter of loving Heavenly Parents. I hope that you sincerely change and forsake all the hollyweird influences once and for all. I'm sorry that you suffered a sexual assault, I hope you will recover. Through faith in Jesus Christ and following His example, I know you can recover.

  30. this is such a beautiful moment. I think she is such a strong figure. Like me, she also has fibromyalgia, and I find her fight and passion inspiring. god I'm crying like a baby.

  31. Hugs n love to you. They do it for power. Generations, centuries, eternity. -Justine Baker WarFlowerSociety C.A. and C.T.S.S, surivor of DV, SA, ST, IPV.

  32. There are numerous courses for advocates, regarding "justice" how it is with clear insight on how it should be, at no cost is on EVAWI's site, as well as many other courses online at no cost. Change the world. Nobody else will if we aren't the voices that are loud enough for those who have no choice but to remain silent. Revictimization is real and common among EVERY person that didn't get any hand to hold whether or not they chose to pursue charges. Which means, it is each of us that and how we respond to SA that make the greatest difference.

  33. I love you Gaga, 52 years old haven’t been to a concert before, & I would wanna see your s only….. your #1 fan I was bullied in school as well. I was sexually abused to by my father. I can understand you… fuck Hollywood be your self I think it’s Beutiful… I also love you n Bradley as a couple. I am very ill , thank you for the fibromyalgia alert cause it needs to be addressed. Stockton is a mess if you look at our video of Stockton California you wouldn’t believe it here . The closed our mental health facilities so much homeless I feel bad for people on Ssi can’t afford a 1 bedroom its 1000 dollars a month. I don’t know how to help my community. It looks like a 3 rd world country. War torn … here . We are in need. How can I help us. Mayor TUBBS doesn’t care .

  34. Mental health yes!…we all need to to seek mental health. I was bullied, rejected and the worse…I was ignored at home and that messed me up real bad…maybe Im still messed up 🙁

  35. I love you Lady Gaga …. You are soo beautiful and brave. I know exactly what you speaking of … Thank you

  36. Wow, great speech, I am a survivor of domestic violence, I am speaking up for the first time, I took my power back, no more abuse…..healing…love & light

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  38. "Not just as women, but as humans."
    This is, and has been my motto. Man or women. We should all be kind and understanding we are just humans.

  39. There is not one reason not to admire you. Your soul is truly original and you make everyone feel a little better everyday by your music, your wisdom, your acknowledgment. <3

  40. Stefani Germanotta should go for president help make america and other countries great again, because i don't see trump supporting this, Stefani is an amazing Women she should be heard

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