Self Discovery Exercise | Personal Inspirations Map 🌼


Hey everyone! Welcome back to Lavendaire. Today I want to share a quick and easy self discovery exercise that you can use to learn more about yourself and uncover the potential that you have within. This is something that I did last night. I was re-inspired to share this exercise again. I shared another version of this exercise,
but I’ll talk about that later. This version is focusing on the people that you admire and love and respect, and analyzing why you love and respect them so much. What do you admire about these idols that you have in your life? It doesn’t have to be a famous person. It could be real people in your life. Just jotting down the name and break down
the characteristics and traits about why you love this person so much. You guys may know that recently I’ve been obsessed with watching Hyori’s Bed and Breakfast on Netflix. That’s like my favorite show right now, and it’s essentially about Kpop star Hyori who opens up her big island home to guests, sort of like an Airbnb. And she has a kitchen staff who’s also another Kpop star named IU. I’m still on season 1, so it’s IU. And I’ve just loved watching them for their personalities. That show’s really inspiring me creatively
and as an artist, just to observe other artists, listen to their conversations. So I’ve been binging the show, but also
watching their interviews just to get to know more about Hyori and IU. I just realize how much I love and respect them. I see so much of myself in them. The key with this exercise is: After you list
out all the people you admire and break down the traits of why you admire them, it’s time to look at what you wrote and realize
that everything you wrote down is something that you have within, whether it’s something that you’re practicing
now, something you value. Or it’s something that you have deep within
that wants to be brought out more, something that you want to live out in your real life. It’s pretty simple when you think about it,
because when there’s someone you admire, you admire them for their qualities and traits
and you admire those traits because those are the traits of your ideal person. You think ideal people should have those types of traits. You wouldn’t see it in them if you didn’t have it in yourself. So see this exercise as a way to find clues
in ways to bring out more of your true self and bring out more of your greatest potential, because you have the potential to be all of
these amazing things that you admire. It really is within you. So going back to my journaling session last
night, why I love and admire Hyori, I love her carefree spirit. I feel like she’s matured as an artist, to
the point where she stopped caring as much about material things and surface level stuff,
and she is more soulful. She does yoga. She doesn’t care what anyone thinks. She’s super confident. She knows what she wants. She’s a very strong personality, and yet she has a very joyful, fun, and funny
side to her, all of which I really admire and love. And so it gives me a clue that I can bring
out more of those sides of me. I can definitely bring out more confidence
and have more fun, and be more funny in life. Just little things like this, everything that you admire. It’s kind of funny because the other girl
on the show, IU, she’s kind of opposite of Hyori, and yet I really relate to her as well. I love her because she’s so sweet, she’s kind. She’s genuinely a nice person. And I like that she’s super humble. On the show, she’s so humble, so regular,
that I didn’t realize how big of a star she was. When you watch videos of her singing, she
turns into another goddess. And to me it’s really cool when someone’s
really humble and yet has so much talent and is a true artist, so I really respect that. At the same time, I love that IU has a quirky sense of fashion. There’s this funny episode where IU and Hyori are shopping. And IU is choosing all these ugly clothes,
these weird patterns and baggy t-shirts, just weird clothes that aren’t typically cute for girls in Korea. And Hyori’s making fun of her for choosing those clothes. But I just love that she’s so strong in her
sense of style, even though it’s so different from everyone else. She’s definitely original and she’s not afraid to be herself and pick the stuff that she likes. So now I encourage you all to try out this simple exercise. Just analyze why you admire the people you admire, and realize that you have those traits in yourself as well, and they’re just asking to be brought out even more. I’ve also shared a similar version of this exercise before. You can actually use this to apply to people that you envy. I know a lot of us sometimes have social media envy, where you’re seeing someone else’s life and you’re admiring their photos and their lifestyle. You can also do this with those people as well. Jot down why you feel gravitated and attracted
to these people, why you envy these people. It’s a way to turn a negative feeling into
something positive for your own life. Realize that whatever you’re attracted to,
it’s because you have that same thing in you. It’s just being reflected off someone else. (Very loud car.) Another fun thing you could do is create a
mind-map of your personal inspirations. Put yourself at the center and then draw out in little nodules all the people who have inspired you or influenced you in your life. And from there, you can draw out the people who inspire them to kind of expand it. I got this idea from something I did in the
past called the “Creative Family Tree”. It was when I was kind of trying to discover myself as a songwriter. I was creating a family tree of all the people
who creatively inspire me in music, all the songwriters and producers I want to sound like. “I want to be a blend of this person and this person and this person.” It’s just a fun, visual way to outline all
your inspirations and see how you are a blend of all of these different influences and how you kind of fit in, in this big creative map. So yeah, let me know if these exercises spark some inspiration in you. I’d love to hear your answers as well. So comment below with at least one person you’re inspired by or someone you admire and love, and then break down all the traits of why
you admire and love that person so much. And I will know that those are the traits that you have within yourself as well. By the way, I also have this worksheet on
journaling prompts for self discovery. If you haven’t downloaded it yet, I’ll put the link in the description below, as well as links to more videos and playlists
related to these self discovery exercises. Alright, have a beautiful day. Love you so much. Bye!

100 thoughts on “Self Discovery Exercise | Personal Inspirations Map 🌼

  1. Amy Winehouse! underneath all the drugs and alcohol there was a beautiful, caring, humble woman. I also look up to my step mom. 4 kids young & she's still at the top of her medical game!! ❤

  2. Hoyri's b&b season 2 is better(I think) than the first one:-) recommend to watch that one too. happy that this can inspire ppl to watch more Korean shows:-)

  3. it's funny because just yesterday i had this realization that there are so many amazing and creative people that i follow on youtube or that i happen to know otherwise and it made me so happy and hopeful. i then thought about writing them down or something but didn't really know how i should do it or if it even made any sense. so this video comes exactly at the right time for me! 🙂 i also really appreciate the idea that all these personality traits can be found in ourselves as well. it makes me feel good :). thank you!

  4. If i have to talk about celebrities SHINee are my inspiration they are the best I love every single one of them

  5. OMG! Three of your list are the most inspiring people for me too!! Marie Forleo, Elizabeth Gilbert and Oprah! Oh, and you are on my list too <3 Thank you for this video, you are so inspiring, as always 🙂

  6. Really love this exercise … ❤❤ .so helpful and make me more about my self 💪..and hyori bed is the best show for me and am watching season 2 now every Wednesday 😍😍

  7. Liked the idea of turning envy into a positive trait. Thanks for all your inspiration. I'm always learning something new from your videos.

  8. Hi Aileen.. I love your video's very much. 😋😍.
    I admire my principal sir who always thought of students and always fulfilled his promises to students..

  9. Damn. Now I have another show to watch. I love Hyori and IU's songs (:
    This video is pretty interesting, I never thought about doing that. Thanks for sharing this excercise, Aileen.

  10. The commercial youtube played before your video was for The Handmaids Tale! Pretty awesome.

    I have a board that is like this exercise combined with a vision board, it's a great representation of the vibes I want to channel.

  11. As a fan of your channel and Hyori's bed and breakfast, I am really feeling Happy for this video. When I watch both of your videos, I always have that positive feeling. I am watching 2nd season of this show, and I definitely recommend it for you to watch) Thank you) Sorry for my bad english)

  12. Actually, you inspire me! Your videos help me be a better person everytime! So much love from Bulgaria! <3

  13. i havent got into the video much yet but um super happy cuz when you first said write down abt someone you admire and so the first think came to my mind was a kpop idol that i see as a role model and you continued mentioning kpop so yeah happy that i can relate much to this

  14. Eileen, this is Genius! Thanks so much!
    One of my great inspirations is Jesus Christ, because He is Perfect Love and had no fear!

  15. Where have your videos been all my life!!!! I have just discovered your channel and I absolutely adore it – I've been binge-watching everything all day and taking notes haha!! Your content is amazing, you have such a lovely voice to listen to, and what a source of inspiration!! I've been trying to get my life back together after a rough path, and I'm so motivated by what you're sharing with us. Thank you so much for that, I cannot wait to see more as you go, and I'm sure I'm going to devour your blog! Love from France!

  16. I've finished this exercise just now and it feels calming yet refreshing.
    I wrote about 4 people and one of them is you.

    Your videos inspire me a lot. As an INFJ I have chaotic and loud mind so you kind of helped me deep understanding of my inner self. I want to be like you that spread positive vibes and be more confident.

    Thank you for the nice content 😀

  17. Great inspiring video as usual …. I admire and was always inspired by an Egyptian scientist called Ahmed Zewail he is a Nobel prize winner and always wanted to be like him in the field of science 🙂

  18. I just did this exercise and it was eye-opening! I wrote about 7 people( and one fictional character cause I connect with her so deeply hehe).😊😊

  19. Such a great advice! I am going to check out Hyori's Bed and Breakfast on Netflix now, I am sure it is a good show if You like it 🙂

  20. I like your channel so much! I'll make sure to watch every single vid! Keep going grl! 💙 💙 you have no idea how your vids inspire me ! Thanks beautiful!

  21. Hi..I admire John Legend. I feel like he understands life and is able to put his experiences into words that are relatable. Especially his Album Love in the Future..this is a new year for love..love in the future..not the love I lost

  22. You are the one I inspired. I watched your videos when I wanna learn new things, or when I need to make myself motivation … thank you for your sharing.

  23. I really adore Gal Gadot!!! This video is really inspiring and I am happy to say that this exercise worked well for me …Thank You Aileen.. 😊

  24. Can you do more of these types of excersises and journal prompts? Also, explain what "find yourself" means and what forms it comes it? I'm trying to find myself but I have no clue what that means. Thanks!!

  25. I love that you said the qualities we aspire to attain from other people are already in ourselves and just waiting to get out ! that puts less pressure in trying to become better when you already know you have it in you. Maybe just buried deep down.

  26. Myka’s clean with me brought me to your channel and I am so glad! You are beautifully inspiring and honest, thank you for your refreshing content.

  27. That moment when you really love art ; music writing dancing but you also love mathematics and physics and i have no idea what to do with my lifeuh

  28. Was just starting to journal about this topic and this helped me with my writing process. Thank you so much! 🙌🏽💕

  29. There are two people my age that I really admire. Shawn Mendes & James Charles. Two completly different personalities, but equally inspiring.

    I like the reflected and kind personality that Shawn has after becoming a star so early on in his life. You can tell that he truly cares about other people and is a normal 19 year old inside when he talks about his problems and all that stuff in interviews. And of course I share his love for music 10/10.

    James is younger than me and while he makes mistakes online it makes me realize that he really is just 18 and has the same emotional outbreaks as nearly everyone in that time of their life. He has an insane work drive and is super creative and always stayed to true to himself in a way. I think he is super grateful for every supporter. While everyone sees him as a potential drama queen I can see past that with my empathy of being the same age.

  30. While I was binge watching your videos, I’ve come across this one, which is so impressive bc I’m Korean. I think you’ve got to the core of their personality, which I love about, too. Thank you for being my inspiration.

  31. You are amazing .This exercise really helped me to discover my true self. For me I love and respect oprah and brendon burchard they are my idols, and I added your name to my list too.

  32. I admire Bang Yongguk from B. A. P. so much like I can't even describe it in words how much respect I have for this man. A few characteristics to describe him: humble, genuine, thoughtful, shy, quiet, passionate, intelligent, kind, caring, hardworking, strong and I could go on. When he struggled he knew he had to take a step back from producing amazing music and the idol life and he knew it, nobody has forced him too. He is always there for his members and listens to them when they might have a hard time. He is just there for others, in his environment but also for people around the world through his charity work.

  33. Just discovered your channel a few days ago but now watching your videos is like a daily ritual to me! I appreciate your content, your choice of words, your soothing voice and your delicacy in every video. Other things is that all the topics you made really help me to overcome my quarter-life crisis. Thank you so much, and i honestly hope your channel will gain more recognition in the future cause you totally deserve that. Love youuuu~

  34. How u mentioned IU, the first thing i thought of ws jungkook. Lol. Also that's d thing i like abt BTS that they r so humble inspite of being such big stars

  35. Inspirations are like fuel to keep you going. Such an insightful video. What I liked the most is turning the negative thoughts into positive , it such a great way to learn. Superb.👍🙂

  36. Btw, you are the first YouTuber whose channel I have turned on the notification bell just so that I don't miss any of your very useful videos💪

  37. Aileen do you understand Korean language ? & Do you watch K-pop songs than please tell me about your favourite K-pop idols name & songs that you like please ! Because I love it tooo

  38. I love self discovery! And i found another video that may further help you guys! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EMZHF2TLtLM

  39. Ailin you inspire me the most!💝 Thank you for all ur videos! I love them cause i need them, to grow something better and feel stronger. Thank u.💝💝

  40. In no particular order, here are the first 10 names that came to me:

    1. John Green

    2. Pete Enns

    3. David Bowie

    4. Madonna

    5. Malcolm Gladwell

    6. Keith Haring

    7. Arthur Russell

    8. Rachel Held Evans

    9. Laurie Anderson

    10. Brian Eno

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