Speaking English – How to talk about STRESS

Hi. This is Gill at www.engvid.com, and today
we’re going to look at a particular type of thing that happens to people in their lives and
also to look at the kind of way we describe it in the English language. Okay? So, we’re
saying: “Don’t get stressed out!” Right? Now, getting stressed out is, with modern life, there
are so many demands; we have to do things quickly, we have to survive, have somewhere
to live, enough food to eat, somewhere to work, all of these things, and it causes a
lot of stress. Okay? So this word “stress” is when you’re feeling very… Very upset and
agitated, and worried because of everything that you have to do and everything that’s
happening, and whether you can cope with it or not. So, modern life has a lot of stresses
and strains. “Strains” are the same idea, really, things sort of pulling you around,
making you do this and that, and you feel all the time you’re having to do what other
people want you to do, and you have no control over what you’re doing, all of that kind of
thing. And it can be quite upsetting if you don’t feel you’re in
control of the situation. So… So we’re saying: “Don’t get stressed
out!” This is maybe a little bit of advice in here, along with the way of expressing
it, about how to cope with stress if you’re feeling stressed. Okay? So there’s lots of
pressure in the modern world, it can be traumatic, it can cause you a lot of anxiety. We’re always
being bombarded by information, advertising: “Buy this. Do this. You should be doing this.”
And there’s a lot of pressure on people to do things that maybe they don’t really want
to do or they don’t see the point of doing, but other people are pressurizing
them to do it. Okay? So… So what someone might say if they’re
in a job that is very, what we’d say highly pressured, a job that is very busy with a lot
of responsibilities, somebody might say: “I can’t take the stress of this job!” Meaning:
“I can’t… I can’t do it. I can’t keep having all this stress every day.
It’s too much.” Okay? So: “I can’t take the
stress of this job!” All right? One of the terms we use for when you’re more
comfortable with what you’re doing is that you’re in your “comfort zone”. It’s like a
zone, it’s an area where you’re comfortable. The things that you’re happy doing, the things
that you are confident doing, that’s in your comfort zone. So maybe being at home, watching
television is in your comfort zone. Maybe going and playing some sports, going swimming
which you enjoy, going out with friends may all be in your comfort zone where you are
comfortable. Okay? So you stay inside your comfort zone if you don’t
really want to try new things. But sometimes, it’s a good idea to go outside
your comfort zone or step outside your comfort zone just to test what you might be capable
of doing. Okay? Just try a little something that’s different to see how it goes. So it’s
not always a good idea to stay within your comfort zone all the time. Try to step outside
it occasionally. I often try to try something new, see how it goes, and if it’s successful,
then you feel great. “I’ve learnt something new, here”, and then you feel good about yourself.
Okay? So, this term also: “Pushing the envelope” is another way of saying “going outside your
comfort zone”, “stepping outside”. The idea of being inside an envelope, you have a letter
inside, but the envelope is closed. But if you push the envelope, you’re sort of pushing
outside it, trying something new, something different. Okay? So
trying new things. And then we’re all different, we all have
different personalities and we had different upbringings, childhoods, education, and so
on, so everybody’s different. Some people actually like stress. Some people thrive on
stress, meaning it gives them a lot of energy. Okay? They get a lot of energy from stress. Stress
produces this, I think it’s a hormone, adrenaline, which gives people a boost and
makes them want to run fast or do something with a lot of energy and strength. So some
people thrive on stress. Other people, they just cannot cope with stress. They can’t do…
They can’t, you know… They can’t do anything with it. They don’t want to have any stress, because
they can’t manage it. They can’t manage it. So “to cope” is to sort of manage something
and be okay, but some people just cannot. They’re not okay if they’re feeling stressed,
because they don’t know how to move ahead with it. They can’t use it, you know, to go
ahead and do something positive. Or they can possibly learn to do that, though, with a
different way of thinking about it. Okay. So, then there… Psychologists love to divide
things up into categories, and so here are some types of stress which psychologists have
identified. There are four here. There are probably more, but just to look at these four
types of stress. One of them is to do with time. So some people are always anxious about
the time, and how much time they’ve got to do something. They’re worried about if they
have a train to catch: “Oh, I’m going to miss the train if I don’t leave now.” Always anxious
about: “Oh, I’ve got to be somewhere else soon. I mustn’t be late.” And I don’t like being
late, so that’s slightly one of my things. I’m often quite early because I hate to be late.
So time is one of the issues with stress. People feel stressed if they think that they’re
going to be late or they haven’t got enough time for something. Okay, the type of stress to do with situations
that you find yourself in, where maybe you go into a room for a meeting and there’s a
feeling that you’re not really in control of your life at that point. Other people seem
to be controlling things and you don’t feel in control. So if you feel you’re losing control
of your life at any stage, that can cause stress. And also, it can affect… If you
have… Everyone has a kind of sense of their status in society, so if people feel that
they’re losing their status for some reason… If they are in a meeting and people are just
not looking at you, if they’re ignoring you as if you’re not there, you think: “Oh, they
don’t think I’m important enough to look at or to speak to.” So you sort of feel you’re
losing status, so that can cause stress. Okay? Third type of stress: anticipation. To do with
the future. If you’re constantly worrying about what’s going to happen in the future…
“Oh, I’ve got a meeting next week and I’ve got to give a talk, and I’m already getting
stressed about it. What am I going to do?” And you might be having a panic attack or
something, and hyperventilating. That’s when you can’t breathe properly, like that. Anticipation,
thinking, thinking, thinking all the time about something and getting obsessed about
it, rather than maybe just sitting down and thinking: “Okay, well, I’m giving a talk next
week. I’d better start writing down some ideas for my talk.” But if you don’t do the practical
side of it, you are going to get stressed by the thought of not being prepared
for that talk or whatever it is. Okay? And finally, the type of stress, encounter,
which means meeting, meeting people. Some people love to meet new people, meeting strangers
and getting to know them. Other people are scared of… Afraid of meeting new people
or maybe they are people that you know, but you don’t really want to see them again, you
feel a bit threatened by them for some reason, maybe for good reasons. So the thought of
meeting a certain person again who maybe you had an argument with could create stress, and
you think: “Oh, I’m not going to go. I’m not going to that party because that person
might be there, so I’m going to stay home instead.” And that’s what happens with people
who can’t cope with stress often withdraw from society; they stay at home,
they don’t go out sometimes. So it’s a sad situation
to get into. So I think my main piece of advice from this
lesson is to just try stepping outside your comfort zone occasionally, try new things,
test yourself out, try some new things, and you can gain confidence from that, finding:
“Oh, I can do that. I didn’t think I could do that, and I’ve just done it”, whatever
it is. Parachuting from a plane or anything like that. So you can get a huge boost of confidence
just by trying something new occasionally. All right? And avoiding stress. So, okay, well I hope that’s been helpful and
also taught you maybe some new vocabulary as well, connected with the subject.
So if you’d like to take a quiz, please go to the website,
www.engvid.com, and do a quiz. And if you’d like to subscribe
to my YouTube channel, that would be great. And look forward
to seeing you again next time. Okay. Bye for now.

95 thoughts on “Speaking English – How to talk about STRESS

  1. i subscribed cause i admired ur english cause i'm facinating with the british way of speaking and i'll follow all ur lessons thank u so much gill hope u'll help us to get the british accent

  2. Hi Gill, thank you for the great lesson. I think stress's interesting & important subject to talk because nowadays man people are worried about it. In fact, I'm always thinking about how I can keep my life from stress. To be honest, I want to live without extra stress as long as I live.

  3. Hi gil! I am from morocco and i am learning a lot i am so glad to have as teacher and i am fortunate too so i hope to see YOU regulary

  4. Congratulations for your excellent lesson and outstanding work. I really appreciate all your videos. God bless you Teacher Gil. See you =D

  5. Thank you for the lesson and I really love your accent. So can you please make a video about the british accent and how to learn it. please!!

  6. HI Gil many thank for your wonderful lesson,them are very helpful for me, and I would ask you if is possible some lesson bout the different ways to use the word last or lasting
    Thank again for your fantastic lessons

  7. thanks a lot. i like ur accent and ur lessons. U r so brilliant teacher. U teach me lots + lots to improve ma english speaking So 10q again. GBU

  8. Hi Gill, you are'nt only such a good teaher but you are the best for me, keep me loving to learn english. double toes for you !

  9. mom Gill the subtitle is too much difficult to see because its white so we need the written to be black or line to be black the board line and script all white so we complaining that thanks my precious teacher

  10. Ma chi è quel cattivo bambino che ha messo il pollice verso??? Cioè come si fa a disprezzare una vecchina così carina e brava

  11. to say that is an excellent session ,is a reductive way.. I say,instead, it is a wonderful lesson, a way to live our life too.compliment to you,teacher Gill ..so great !! Warm regards.

  12. Hi Gill, I totally understand you don't have enough time to see all the post we made for you, but want to be regitered more time, thank you so much for your amazing job.

    I'm very amotional person as cheryl Cole from X factor UK.
    I cry when I see someone doing well done kind of job as you've been doing through here!

    You got my got 😉

  13. Your videos are very helpful for person who try to learn the English language like me.
    Thanks a lot, God bless you.

  14. Mrs.Gill these few words from me is just to say that i love your english lessons. American english is very nice, but i´ve been always fond of British English! best wishes, and may god be with you!

  15. great lesson!could you make a video about Modal verbs in continous forms please?i see it be used quite common in speech ,and i often muddle up,thank you for your lesson

  16. i've watched this lesson several times,and after every repetition,i understood a liitle bit of it.i'm not only learning english but also picking up more precious experiences in life .i feel i 'm having problem with the fourth of issue of "encounter", who can tell me what i might have to do to escape from the encounter,it makes me get stressed out so much

  17. bezuwork is love you so much. I'm happy when I see you so much. And I am praud of you. because i improve my skill.

  18. Madame Gill I like you so much
    you are really awesome kind teacher thanks so much ..
    I love really your accent
    and your explanation 💝💝

  19. You explain yourself very well, i really enjoy myself listening you,i love your accent; i wish i could speak english like you, awesome:

  20. Hello mam.I love to watch your english videos.Thanks for telling us about british royal family & many other things in your other videos.you are a good person as well.your facial expressions are always make me feel that you are young by your heart.you r my favourite teacher..I really want to get your accent..how can i😀😜

  21. "Comfort zone" plays a crucial role when you're learning a foreign language as well. In fact, if you are relaxed and unworried, as having a friendly conversation in a friendly enviroment, speaking a second language is easier because adrenalin turns into noradrenalin. But if you're under pressure, stressed and not self-confident, specially when the conversation gets quicker, a sort of block, neurologically called "emotional filter", puts on and you're going to get in trouble. So, please, always being patient with a language learner… 😊

  22. thank you sooooo much!i have lerned so much from your lesson.im poor in english. you give me the confidence to continue to study thank you

  23. Gill, you are such a good teacher. Congratulations. One thing I would ask you please if you could recommend a book to be listened online. It is very important after having learned all those grammar explanations you have been so kind in passing to all of us, Thank you. HIlda Andrade, from Brazil.

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